Love At First Sight: A Myth or Reality?
Love at First Sight: is it real or simply a cliche solely used for artistic effect? As children, this concept is wired into our imaginations with fairy-tales and “happily-ever-afters”; but as seasoned adults with experience in breakups and heartbreak, we aren't as easily swayed. We get that real love takes time, nurturing and trust. We know that anything worthwhile requires hard work. We understand that any instantaneous romance must be too good to be true - but does that mean the concept’s rubbish? Not entirely.
As contradicting as this may sound, I do believe that love at first sight exists. At the ripe age of 53, I can honestly say that I have experienced this phenomenon three times in my life. First in 1989, again in 1992, and one final time back in ‘97. As you may have guessed, I fell head-over-heels in love with each of my children the very second I laid eyes on them.
My first born was a patriotic baby, born just shy of the fireworks show on the third of July. He was also an impatient baby. When his five-pound body decided on making an early arrival, he nearly killed me. I was not glowing, there were no tears of joy or video cameras capturing the beauty of life - it was just me yelling profanities while sitting on death’s doorstep. After many hours of work and unimaginable pain, a set of extremely talented obstetric and neonatal teams introduced him to the world at 3:00pm on the dot.
Due to the fact that I was literally bleeding out, I was packed up and on my way to the Operating Room before I knew what was happening. As we approached the exit, I heard him let out his beautiful first cry and with reflex instead of thought, I managed to reach out and stop my projection from the room. I looked over at the little boy on the table and it was instant! I fell madly in love with him. I had never felt anything like it (physically or emotionally) in my life. Regardless of my rapidly declining health, I was filled with the warmest feeling of happiness. I was his mother and all that was wrong in the world was made right.
Each subsequent birth filled my soul with the same joyous feeling, both equally so in their own ways. They taught me that the notion of immediate love isn’t just for children, rather, just for parents. It doesn’t matter if it comes from your body, an adoption agency, or a surrogate - a parent’s love is unlike any other. Someday in the future, I will be led into a hospital room and witness the moment my sons begin believing in the sweetest of cliches. Just like their mother did before them, they will finally start believing in fairy-tales again. I will look at my grandbaby and thank my lucky stars for the privilege that is parenthood.
So, is there such a thing as “love at first sight”? I believe so - but not in the way that’s depicted by Hollywood. As nice as the idea of instantaneous romance seems, it really is too good to be true. Fortunately, falling in love with a single glance is entirely possible - and speaking from experience, it’s so much better than what I’ve seen in any movie. Look at your kids today and remember the first time you laid eyes on them - that is real love at first sight and there’s nothing else quite like it.
We’ll talk again soon, I’ll bring the coffee. -R., Mother of 27 years.
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