No Man Is An Island
Why is it so important for us to belong? Whether it is a clique in school, a sports team, or even a church - belonging gives us a sense of family, especially for those who have none. What do we really give up when we pledge our allegiance and free-will to a group? Just the chance to say we are accepted?
I don’t try and pretend that I was the most popular kid in school. In fact, I found that I was either loved or I was hated. It really didn’t bug me. I would rather have someone hate me and have the nerve to say it to my face than pretend to like me. Maybe this attitude was what gave me the resilience to become a writer. Thick skin and a bit of street smarts are needed to “make it” in the arts.
I believe religion is a vital part of society, we all need something to believe in, but I would still encourage you to ask questions. If it is in the writings of your faith, pray for understanding, not a literal translation. Never base your beliefs and morals on the words of others, rather on what you yourself find to be true.
I think it is healthy to ask questions, to ask “why?”. Remember that by doing this, by never simply falling into the status quo, it sets a prime example for those we care for. Encourage individualism, influence others to mix healthy questions with the guidance of a higher strength. Show our kids, hold them; this is how they will stay away from the evil factions that want to control their minds.
It seems that as I complete a new piece of life’s puzzle, another “why” introduces itself into the equation, replacing the shreds of understanding I held onto. My mind will never belong to a group or organization - it’s all mine and my boys are encouraged to do the same. I will fight until my death to keep them on the right track. Mothers around the world: join me. Ask questions and set a good example for your kids so they follow in your footsteps. Keep your heart pure and your soul full of hope. If you can do this, you will find the answers you need and your future will stay bright, and hopeful. As a parent, this is our job. Until the day we pass, they are ours!
Be thankful for our kids and remember to surround them with good influence and examples. Let’s talk again tomorrow, I will bring the coffee. -Ruth